How do I learn to relax to bottom?

It may sound wildly simple, but breathe! Most people are unaware of how few deep, full breaths they take throughout the day. Lack of breathing in combination with daily stressors (traffic, jobs, relationships, grocery store madness) locks up our body, especially our pelvic floor. This can lead to a very tight anal sphincter.

Luckily, breathing exercises like box breathing can fix you right up.

Lie on your back or on your side (with knees bent at a 90/90 angle) and inhale gently through your nose, pressing the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth so you strain your neck to breath in. Hold the top of the breathe in for as long as you inhaled. Exhale all the air out of your mouth as if you were gently sighing. Hold the bottom of the exhale for the same amount of time it took you to exhale completely. Repeat as many rounds as necessary.

Epsom salt baths, warm showers, and light stretching can also work wonders for relaxing. The key is to breathe deeply through all of these activities.

Here are some more ways to relax your sphincter before bottoming: